Recently, I had a very eye opening session with my life coach. We were discussing my relationship with my husband (which is great, by the way, in case you were wondering). We are celebrating our 19th anniversary this month and I am very grateful to have made it so many years without too many rough patches.
As I continue to explore my own spiritual existence and expand my way of being here in this world, I have been reflecting on how we can continue to build and grow our marriage in the years to come. So, my coach asked me to share with her everything that I want in a partner. That was easy, I rattled off a list of my expectations of my partner. Then, I expected her to say: Now tell me how your partner is doing in these areas. I was ready to tell her. But, instead, she said: Now put these expectations back on yourself and tell me how you are doing as a partner to your husband. Are you meeting the expectations you are placing on your partner?
I was speechless (which doesn’t happen often with me) because I realized that some of these expectations I was putting on my partner were things I was not doing myself. I immediately felt like there was a spotlight on me and my role in the marriage. My coach turned the tables on the discussion and that really shook me “awake” at my core as I considered my marriage and all the years we have left to share with each other.
How are your relationships? Are you and your partner continuing to grow and expand your connection as the years progress? How about your friendships? Do they also continue to flourish? What about challenges with working relationships? Perhaps you have people in your life who are not giving you everything you expect…. What is your part in the relationship? Are you giving what you expect to receive?
The exercise with my coach really opened my eyes so that I could see my part in maintaining and growing our marriage. It is a partnership after all!
Where in your life are you looking for clarity in your relationships? What challenges are you faced with as you interact with the people in your life?
Reflect back on yourself in those relationships and see how you are communicating and behaving. Are you being the person you want the other person to be?
Thank you to my coach, Laurie Polinski, for strengthening my awareness in this way.
Sending you all hugs, love and positive vibes,