Taking the power back from bullies—how to deal with bullying

Dealing with bullies can be difficult for anyone, but especially if you have social anxiety. Name calling, physical abuse or exclusion from social groups can burn deep wounds that don’t easily go away.

Lisa Klarner understands what you’re going through when it comes to bullies. Through her personal experience, training and compassionate support, she can help you with situations such as how to deal with subtle bullying, how to deal with bullies at school or work, or how to help your child deal with bullies.

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Physical bullies

A bully may knock objects out of his victim’s hands, shove or hit. No matter what the level of severity, it’s distressing.

What to do:

  • Communicate with a trusted adult and ask for help
  • Act confident – both in posture and language. Bullies target the weak.
  • Surround yourself with supportive and outgoing friends.

Verbal bullies

Words hurt! Name calling and teasing can have long-term effects on emotional stability. Malicious rumors add even more complexity and pain to the situation.

What to do:

  • Know the truth. Let go of hurtful words and fill your mind with positive thoughts about yourself.
  • Tell the bully to stop. Then walk away.
  • Ask for help! Communication with parents or teachers, or even human resources or a boss in the case of corporate bullying, is critical.


Bullying is no longer contained to the classroom or workplace walls—social media and mobile phones have given bullies new outlets. Cyber bullying is growing at alarming rates because it’s easier to be a bully when you don’t have to look anyone in the eye. It’s also especially harmful because it can reach a far wider audience.

  • Check your privacy settings. Make them as secure as possible.
  • Remove a friend from your social media site if he or she is harassing you.
  • Block the phone number of anyone who bullies you through text messages.
  • Parents: Cyber-bullying is serious. Pay attention to your child’s social media sites. Keep the communication lines open with your child.