Parenting is tough. It’s even tougher when your child suffers from depression or anxiety. There’s no quick fix, but there are strategies to help you be present, open and understanding of your child’s needs.

How to parent a child with anxiety

  1. Find balance between over-protection and too much freedom.
  2. Tell your child what you love about them, and don’t be afraid to give them helpful, sometimes critical, feedback too.
  3. Love the unique qualities of your child even if he or she is different than you.

STEP 1: FINDING A BALANCE BETWEEN OVERPROTECTION AND TOO MUCH FREEDOM

Parenting and anxiety are related. Parents with social anxiety can transfer their own fears to their children. Striking a balance between being cautious and giving your child independence when possible can be most effective.

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Yes, there are dangers in our world, this is why striking a balance and giving your child independence when possible can be most effective.

STEP 2: TELLING YOUR CHILD WHAT YOU LOVE ABOUT THEM – BUT REMEMBERING TO GIVE THEM HELPFUL, SOMETIMES CRITICAL, FEEDBACK TOO.

Busy parents today may feel there is only time to criticize their children.

Hurry up!

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You are so LAZY!

Critical comments can fly out almost automatically as we blast through our day. Perhaps these comments are related to our own past failures. We try to over-compensate, thinking our children won’t have the same challenges if we only guide them.

Parenting a child with anxiety takes a soft touch. Is there a history of anxiety in your family? Think about the lasting effects critical comments may have on your child. Remember to praise them when they do well and remind them what you love about them often!

STEP 3: LOVING THE UNIQUE QUALITIES OF YOUR CHILD EVEN IF HE OR SHE IS DIFFERENT THAN YOU.

Giving your child the freedom to be who they are destined to be is important in helping kids deal with anxiety. Have a shy child? If you are out-going, this may be difficult to understand and accept.

  • Find out if it’s just shyness or something more and seek help if necessary.
  • Learn more about shyness and appreciate this differing quality in your child.
  • Don’t force your child into extremely difficult situations without first understanding his/her emotional state.

Want more strategies or a one-on-one anxiety consulting session with Lisa? Contact Lisa today to schedule a free, 30-minute consultation session.