If we could see anxiety, I wonder if it would look like a fire — burning red hot at the core with the flames lashing out around our upper body and the top of our head. A wild fire burning out of control. It’s hard to breathe when this fire is burning. For me, it feels like I am being pulled out of my body by the flames. Do you know this feeling? It wasn’t until I was finally able to recognize what was happening in my own self – when I could become more grounded to tame the wild fire – that I could see the difference. Anxiety vs. Grounded Peace.
The social anxiety I used to experience is gone. The generalized anxiety does still come up more than I would like it to due to being a type A, over achieving personality. What’s different now, though, is that along my journey I gained insight into tools that can help me to tame the wildfire.
I have shared tips before on how to minimize anxiety. Check out the Treatment category in my blog.
Here is some guidance for times when you feel the anxiety burning hot:
- Recognize it. Appreciate your ability to notice. It’s very positive that you are recognizing what is happening.
- Consider what you are doing, who you are talking to, and what may be happening in your life in general. Is the anxiety realistic considering what’s happening? Remember that sometimes anxiety comes from irrational thoughts that we aren’t even aware of.
- Stop. Walk away. Punch a pillow. Go for a walk. Breathe. Whatever you need – do it! Find something to help tame the fire.
- Congratulate yourself for your self awareness and the steps you are taking to heal. Then, make a plan of action based on what you believe caused the anxiety. Do you need counseling, a coach, maybe a vacation? Take action! A step in a positive direction is the right step!
Then, lastly, give yourself a big hug and a dose of self-love. You need it!